‘Time Management’ & the Feminine?
Are these at odds?
Can they play nice together?
I get this question quite a bit, honestly…
How do we soften and open into more of our Feminine Energy — and still “get things done”?
How do we keep from just following the path of “Lazy Pleasure” — without finding ourselves wallowing in Wounded Feminine Complacency?
How do we stay in Creative Energy — instead of getting distracted by the Surface Pleasures, the dopamine hits (or addictions… same-same) of social media, Netflix, wine, phone…?
Probably the most common thing I see are Patterns of Avoidance when it comes to these kinds of ‘time management’ questions...
- Waiting until last-minute before you finally sit down and ‘Do the thing.’ (Sometimes even preferring that “hit” of Energy you get from a deadline that's about to pass you by.)
- Continuing to ‘futz’ with things like that font on your website, or finding the perfect photo for your post, or anything else besides actually getting your little booty out there and seen.
- Putting something off unless it feels SUPER Alive and Aligned, and not a second before.
- Believing the (incorrect) trope that "if it's not a full-body yes, then it's a no.'
- The ‘doom scroll’ and the ‘time suck’ of our phones — I mean, where DID that last hour go??
- Stories and Narratives and Beliefs - even Subconscious / Unconscious ones that you need to be a certain amount of “Ready” or have a particular amount of “Knowing exactly what to do and how to do it” before you'll let yourself begin.
- Fear of POSITIVE Discomfort.
Now, I wanna be super clear — there's ZERO Shame in these Patterns.
Really.
(Am I just saying this because some of these are MY Patterns? No… or maybe… lol. But really, no — there's zero Shame here. ;))
I really feel these are just kinda basic Human Patterns:
We're naturally going to avoid Discomfort, because it's… well, uncomfortable, obvi.
And that Survival Mechanism is super strong — the Belief that “if it feels good, it must be for our betterment; if it doesn't feel good, DANGER."
But this 👆🏽 only becomes our Driver
when we're letting it run in the background, unchecked.
In other words, we only fall “victim” to these Patterns — in a way that doesn't feel good to us or to our lives,
and in a way that gets in the way of our big beautiful Dreams, to our Soul Calling —
when we're not bringing Consciousness
into what is a very very Unconscious / Subconscious Program.
Because listen — our Root Chakras are STRONG, y’all.
And that’s where this (and most other) Survival impulses come from, right?
These are very real, and very valid Root Chakra urges.
But in THIS time in our world,
we don’t want to just be led around by our Root,
operating on Survival impulses, right?
Absolutely not.
We want to be Creators of our Reality
and Co-Creators with Spirit, Soul, the Quantum Realms, etc.
so we can be living our Soul Calling, our Purpose, and the life of our Dreams.
Le duh.
But just “understanding” that this is one of your Patterns isn’t gonna change it.
We know that already — we SEE the ways we sabotage,
we SEE the ways we distract ourselves,
we SEE the tendencies we have to Avoid,
but that doesn’t mean we can just snap our fingers and pop ourselves out of the Pattern. (Don’t we wish that were the case. ;))
So — to start shifting this — here’s what I’d love to invite you to start playing with, exploring, Practicing:
Find your Opposing Desires.
You already know one of your Desires is to be experiencing Ease, or relaxation, or Softening of your Nervous System, or any other kind of ‘hit’ your Subconscious feels like it’s getting from your doom scrolling or putting-things-off.
What’s the other one?
What do you actually Desire to Create? What do you actually Desire to accomplish? What do you actually Desire to get off your plate, so it stops being a drag and a drain on your Energy?
Honor BOTH of these.
We don’t want you vilifying or judging that first Desire for Ease and Softening. Those are important, necessary, and Nourishing for you.
Vilifying this Desire is just going to have you beating yourself up,
speaking to yourself like “what’s WRONG with me??!,”
creating incredibly rigid rules and Forced Consistency (which is just gonna have you a) rebelling against it and sabotaging again, and b) taxing your Nervous System even more),
and trying to force yourself to Do the Doing (which will have you feeling like you’re losing your Life Force, your Inspiration, your Soul Alignment even more).
Instead, we wanna bring these two things side-by-side, and allow them BOTH to be there.
Some loving Honoring and Allowance for some time to Soften, to Nourish yourself with some down-time, to rest, to ‘do nothing,’ to space out and stare out the window for a while — WITH PERMISSION.
And some time where you Consciously Honor that you have another Desire, as well — the one that wants to Move forward, the one that wants to Create, the one that wants to walk a Higher Path.
That Desire needs some Permission, as well — instead of being seen as something you ‘have to do’, or something you’re making a ‘task’ or a ‘chore.’ (Because of course you’re gonna want to do it less!)
Easiest way to give that Desire some Permission — is to create a Sacred Masculine Container of time for yourself in which you let yourself just make a mess in the Direction of that Desire.
Just go. Just Play. Just Create. Just BEGIN.
Make it Playful. Make it ridiculous. Make it a party. Make it luxurious, however that wants to happen.
Be actually Devoted to doing it messily, imperfectly, even partially — simply in Service of Movement toward that Desire.
And then — this is important:
Consciously notice that doing it that way is FUN. Or it’s Easeful. Or it’s Pleasurable. Or it’s soft and lilting and Nourishing. Or it’s just simply Expansive and Opening and Elevating to your mind, to your Nervous System, to your body.
Doing this, practicing this with the things you think you need better ‘Time Management’ in order to do — and you’ll be Weaving an entirely new Reality and Relationship with the things you’re wanting to Create in your life AND with yourself.
And THAT is the recipe for Magic, Miracles, and a life lived fully of your Soul Calling.
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