Welcome to Eden
Our Client Voxer Community
Please read these few notes and standards below
so we can Co-Create and Uphold our beautiful space together.
Community Standards
A few helpful things (and our Community Standards) as you enter into this sweet, bonus Community space...
Kindness
The women in this community are GORGEOUS, so this shouldn't even be an issue — but it feels important to clarify:
Please keep all messages Loving, supportive, encouraging and above all KIND.
Please go out of your way to be supportive and kind to your sisters (this includes me).
In the unlikely event that there's a problem, we'll remove anyone from the thread who sends messages that don't fit this description, or for any other reason we deem necessary, without warning. Above all else, we want you ladies feeling safe here.
If you're ever unsure about saying or sending something, or in bringing up a topic that might cause stress or Trigger in your sisters, please reach out to us privately first so we can help you find languaging that will Honor both what you’d like to share AND the Hearts of the others here.
2. Sharing (and Taking) Space
Please be considerate of the space and of your sisters' time.
Voxer is SO FUN for connection. Annnnnnd, just to Honor one another's time and the size of the group, please try to keep both voice and text messages as brief as you can, and be mindful of 'sharing the road' (not over-stepping into the space or treating it as a 1:1 container) while also please never stifling or censoring yourself! 🙏🏻
It's always a Both/And, right? :)
(Voice messages of about 3 minutes or less is generally long enough to give you spaciousness for sharing in voice, and short enough to be mindful of sharing the space with others. Please try to keep typed messages to roughly 1-phone-screen in length.)
A nice perk about Voxer, too: you can 2x and 3x the speed of voice messages, so you can listen to them faster, too, if you feel called.
3. “Keeping Up”
There’s no such thing as “keeping up” here.
Find the sweet spot for your own engagement in our sweet space — don't feel like you have to listen to, read, or reply to everything sent.
Voxer can be a beautiful way to practice self-care. How? By allowing ourselves to connect deeply with others while still being a beautiful, Sacred Masculine Stand for our own needs, time and Energy.
This may be a helpful way to approach this: For everything you share in the Voxer thread, just let yourself listen to / read and reply with Love and Sisterhood to 1 other message from someone else. Let that be enough. :)
Remember: we're not about Doing #allthethings or being "perfect" here.
4. Leaving the Spac
If you feel called to leave our community space, you can always remove yourself.
But please come in and drop some Love for your sisters in the thread before you do — leaving the space with as much Sisterhood as you entered with.
5. Triggers
And the last one is the most sensitive…
Please notice any Triggers that come up for you — for any reason — and to see how you can practice letting it Expand and Open you into Receiving even more, into greater Intimacy, into more and more LOVE.
My personal philosophy — and the one I teach — is that Triggers are simply a way for us to learn how to Love one another even better.
Because the Truth is just that group spaces will bring up our STUFFFFF.
It's almost guaranteed that we’ll feel #allthethings at some point or another in a group, especially when one of the things we’re doing is coming into a more Sacred Relationship with our Inner Worlds, our Emotions, our Sensations & our Patterns.
And it can be such beautiful Medicine if we let it — and if we meet it with care and intentionality.
Here’s how I want to invite you to meet any Triggers that might show up for you (in any space)...
If you're ever feeling OVERWHELMED, practice taking your time and letting YOUR Pace and YOUR form of exploration here be enough; practice taking in just ONE message at a time, and letting that be enough; practice putting down "perfectionism" and the idea that you need to "keep up" or respond to everything in order to be okay.
If you ever find yourself in COMPARISON, practice finding what's incredible about you, what's unique about you, what you can shine — right here, right now, right where you are; practice celebrating a sister, and meaning it; practice separating what anyone else's Path "means" about yours because no 2 Paths will ever look the same.
If you're ever feeling JUDGMENTAL about someone else, practice getting Curious instead. What Wisdom might this person's way-of-living or way-of-being be wanting to show you? What Medicine might they be Activating you into for your own Expansion?
If you're ever feeling ANNOYED OR IRRITATED by someone else and just “the way they are,” practice seeing what Medicine they might have for you, as well; to see what ways you're letting someone else's Way of Being dictate how you get to feel, and where you might be being asked to come into your own Wholeness, cultivate your own Field, and release even more Requirement upon the world around you to be the way you want it to be.
I KNOW this one can be Edgy. And it’s sometimes just TRUE that one person’s Way of Being will rub against our Way of Being like sandpaper. AND I've found that, when we can let go (at least a little more and a little more) of the Requirement for the world and other people to show up in a Particular way SO THAT we can feel how we want to feel — we actually end up being more and more able to feel how we want to feel in ANY circumstance. In other words, we become far less Porous and ‘influenced’ by that which is around us. And it's SO powerful for the lives, relationships and Sacred Success you want to create.
*Please see the important caveat about this below.If you're ever feeling UNHEARD, 1) practice celebrating yourself for speaking up and out, no matter who listens; 2) practice validating yourself, no matter if you ever get it Externally; practice loving on the soft, beautiful part of yourself that just wants Connection; and 3) practice asking for what you Desire from those in your personal circle or Choosing to practice deeper Connection elsewhere in your life.
If you notice some of your own Patterns or Triggers coming up in this space — past Wounds, Inner Child aspects, and unheard, unseen Parts that want attention (and sometimes come in with a flamethrower when they want that attention) — I invite you to bring it into the group (in the Voxer space if you feel somewhat grounded in the Trigger, or via the Questionnaire if it’s especially tender or spicy) with Curiosity and an intention to find Softening, Opening, Wisdom, Expansion, Loving Kindness and a NEW Pattern from within the Trigger.
I’ve found that this languaging can feel helpful for finding that Tone even inside of a Trigger: “I’m noticing that I’m feeling a Trigger coming up around ____. I Know that it’s coming up because of a past experience, so I’d love to find a New Way to meet this (or see this, or reframe this, etc). Can you help me find a New Pattern?”
Note: NONE OF THIS applies to situations of Abuse, Violence or Oppression — if anything actually abusive or oppressive is happening in this container, PLEASE NOTIFY ME AND MY TEAM IMMEDIATELY so we can take reparative action as quickly as possible. ABUSIVE AND OPPRESSIVE BEHAVIOR IS A ZERO-TOLERANCE OFFENSE IN THIS SPACE, AND THOSE BEHAVING THIS WAY WILL BE REMOVED IMMEDIATELY, NO QUESTIONS ASKED, AND NO REFUNDS GIVEN.
IMPORTANT:
If you are deeply struggling and having thoughts of self-harm,
please call National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA) at 1-800-273-8255 immediately.
(Samaritans UK: 116 123 / Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14)
We’re here if you need anything.
Just send through a note in the Ask a Question tab, or email us at info@heather-allison.com